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Saturday, February 27, 2010

Hit the Books: Strong Willed 4

Chapter 4 addresses the common errors parents can make during this training process.  (I am sure I need to be trained as much if not more than my children do!)

p99- "There is no more ineffective method of controlling human beings (of all ages) than the use of irritation and anger."

p100- "Disciplinary action influences behavior; anger does not....Adult anger produces a destructive kind of disrespect in the minds of our children.  They perceive that our frustration is caused by our inability to control the situation."

p101- "...anger often becomes a tool used consciously for the purpose of influencing behavior.  It is ineffective and can be damaging to the relationship."

p107- "You don't need anger to control children.  You do need action occassionally."

p107- "In fact, the closer the action (you take as parent) moves to the front of the conflict, the less punishment is required."

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